The romance between the husband and wife starts lessening after the birth of the first baby. It is quite natural. The attention of both persons diverts from each other to the newly born baby. After the birth of other babies, the romance between the two gets weaker to the weakest. It is not right; the widening gap between the husband and wife affects the overall grooming of the children. Both the husband and wife are supposed to strengthen their relationship with each other for the better grooming of their children and to turn their home into a sweet home. The following are the ten most important things to keep the marriage strong after the baby’s birth.
1-Realizing the ground realities
Not only the wife but also do the husband need to realize the ground realities. Both the persons need to feel that they have turned to be the parents. The new born baby will definitely share the love existing between the husband and wife. Neither the wife can attend the husband the way she used to attend him before the baby’s birth, nor can the husband be much attentive to her in the presence of a very cute new born baby. They need to realize that the love existing between both has taken a physical form as a baby.
2-The husband needs to be more caring
Undoubtedly, the wife has gone through a great transformation. She has given birth to a baby. She is not physically strong enough to manage the household the way she used to manage previously. The husband needs to realize this fact. He should be more caring and loving to strengthen the ties existing between him and his wife. Also, he should help the wife to nurse the baby. The wife certainly realizes this favor given to her by the husband.
3-The love needs tending
The one-sided care does not last long. Although the wife asserts that she deserves more care, she should value her husband’s every effort made to bring comfort to her life. In other words, love begets love.
4-Respond the tone of each other with patience
After the birth of a baby, the husband and wife come out of the dreaming world. They begin to realize the realities of life. The wife has to tend the baby not only in the day time but also at night. On the other hand, the husband also has to go to the office in the early morning. Sometimes, the husband’s outdoor official duties irritate the wife; her tone gets a bit harsh. The husband pays in the same coin. Both of them need to control their tones to strengthen their ties.
5-Try Find the Causes of Problem
There is no home in the world where the problems don’t occur. The wise couples don’t point the finger to each other for the responsibility. They know that pointing fingers to each other adds fuel to the fire. It is better to sit together to find the reasons and solutions to the problem.
6-Calling Each Other with Respect
If you need respect, you should start giving respect to others. The husband and wife should call each other with loving words; the love existing between couple increases indeed.
7-Celebrate birthdays and marriage anniversaries with great fervor
Both husband and wife can celebrate the birthday of each other and children with great fervour. On an auspicious day, both can give a surprise gift to each other to enhance love. The marriage anniversary is another occasion helping the couple to get close to each other.
8-Become a Team
Both husband and wife need to realize that they are struggling together to maintain their home. Their children are the centre of attention. The parents and children constitute a strong team; every member of the team has to play his/her due role to turn the home into a sweet home.
9-Make your short and long term plans
After the birth of children, you are more mature and responsible. To stay close to each other and to strengthen your marriage, you need to make up short term and long term plans; for instance, planning the decoration of your home together, planning to buy a new home, investing for the future needs.
10-Do not conceal facts from each other
The husband and wife need to understand that they have got together forever. Staying under one roof and sleeping on one bed, they cannot conceal any secret of their lives from each other. Get utterly exposed to each other what you actually are. Also, try to read the mind of each other on different occasions to respond well. Some wives or husbands get a little bit harsh being overburdened. Don’t react harshly in the presence of children or guests, if your wife or husband behaves in the same way. Show some patience and realize him/her of the fault when he/she gets normal. In the end, feel your family as your great strength to live a happy life.